Friday, March 16, 2012

Struggle

One of my greatest struggles as a parent is not rescuing my children from consequences.

I want them to be happy.

I want them to be able to do the fun thing we had planned today.

But, yesterday, I set the expectation of what would have to happen in order for fun thing to happen.  Some worked hard, stayed on task, and got 'er dun.  Some did not.

Those that did fortunately include the one child with driver's license who is able to take those who did to do fun thing.  Those that did not get to stay home with mom.

Sad day.

I wanted to say, oh well, you can just finish this afternoon.

And then everyone would be happy and go have fun, but then what have I actually done for the long run?

Sabotage.

So this morning, I did the hard thing and let consequences happen, and tears are falling (yes, even mine), but maybe next time (since this time the hard, but necessary happened) we'll all get to go have some fun because, instead of short-circuiting the discipline process, I leaned in and let it run its course.


"No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it." Hebrews 12:11


~peace

1 comment:

  1. Enforced consequences are the long-term rescue. Good job.

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