Change = discomfortIt's a given. If things are changing in your life, you will be uncomfortable and you will try to find anything that will make you comfortable again, sometimes even choosing things that you left behind because they were harmful.
Discomfort ≠ bad
Sometimes you will have to go through the discomfort and the hard to get to the healthy and the good.
Hard ≠ bad
Familiar ≠ goodEspecially if familiar means you go down into that negative place, only because it's the only path you've ever known. Trust me, there are other choices. You may not be able to see them because you have a wall of fear all around you, but there are ways to get around that.
Good ≠ bestGood can be an ok choice, but good can get in the way of the best. Baby steps. Today choose one thing that is best.
Busy ≠ goodKeeping busy does not necessarily mean productive or fruitful or good. Often times staying busy is just masking shame which is trying to keep you tied down in familiar patterns of self-hatred and condemnation that, while they may be familiar, are definitely not your friends. Busy also can be a wall that keeps you from seeing what your best choice may be. Take that into consideration.
Messy ≠ badLearning to operate with new tools while things are changing around and within you can get messy. The mess can feel overwhelming. It can feel daunting. It can feel bad. Ask a wise and trusted friend about this. Let them help you determine if your mess is bad or not and if there's anything you need to do about it.
If you find yourself in relational messes wherein you say or do something selfish and/or hurtful, apologize. Get good at apologizing now. Need some help? Here's a great "formula" to use until apologizing for selfish behavior comes naturally:
I apologize for ___________. It was unloving because ___________. Will you forgive me?I can't see through this screen into your world, so know that these are basic generalizations. If you or someone you know is in trouble and needs help, please get it. Don't know where to go? Leave me a comment here, and I'll point you in a helpful direction.
P.S. I've joined the Ultimate Blog Challenge in an attempt to get myself blogging again on a regular basis. Daily blogging means imperfect posts that often feel uninspired, but there you go. I'm blogging and that's what I'm going for.